If control is your safe zone, this post is for you.
Consider this statement:
Maybe it’s time for you to move on — to give your position (professional, volunteer, even assumed or self-declared) to someone else.
If insecurity is your prime reaction to the statement, consider the following.
- Someone else would get a chance to enjoy what you have enjoyed.
- Someone else might do the job better.
- You would have the opportunity for something new — an opportunity to expand your borders, your knowledge, your experience.
If you’re still shaking a little from the very idea, I encourage you to evaluate why. Insecurities are always bound up in a big mess of fear.
You might think: No one else would want the position.
But remember when you stepped into it? Did you think “I’m taking this because no one else would ever want it?” Probably not. And even if you did, the decision may have been made out of fear (i.e. [fill in the blank] won’t go on without me), and fear is never a good starting place for decisions.
You might think: Others might not be able to do as good a job with the given responsibility.
But wouldn’t it make sense that someone else would have the opportunity to do even better? Getting past the fear that there are no hard workers who would fit the role, consider the fact that the person coming in would get all your wisdom and experience and then be able to add on top of that their own unique methods, ideas, and connections.
You might think: I don’t want to move on to new opportunities and experiences.
There are always good, healthy reasons to want to stay where you are. The season of your life may, in fact, not be over yet. But if the culprit for the lack of desire is again fear…well you get the point.
It’s always humbling to let go, and it’s even more humbling to go back to our old stomping grounds and see things running well without us. But a healthy humility is connected not to fear but to confidence. As we move forward, we’re able to say “I’m confident, I trust, I’m willing” rather than “I’m scared, I distrust, I’m unwilling.”